| | A friend of mine talked about her problems that she always handle the things in wrong ways and made wrong decisions. If people know her very well, people can easily see her problems because it's too obvious. Many times I gave her advices, she didn't listen. You can guess the consequence - She ate the fruit of her own wrong doing. I asked her whether she regret for the aftermath or not. She said no. But, as a friend, I feel pity for her.
I majored in industrial engineering. I have learnt a lot of decision making skills. There are some systematic ways for us to make a right decision without regret. But sometimes we don't really need any systematic methods to make a decision. We don't need to draw a tree diagram listing down the possible outcomes and calculate their opportunities. Like my friend, sometimes we miss some simple steps before make a decision or do the things. All the things we need to do are - pray and think twice. So when it comes to make a decision about someone or something that you are not sure about whatever it's a financial, work, study or even romantic decisions (That's why there are lost of divorce or heart-broken people). We should gather all the necessary information, then stop before making a decision. Step out of the situation for a moment. Go somewhere quiet, like even if it's just the bathroom and I prefer go to church. Pray. We can pray for God's guidance and the wisdom. And then, ask yourself, "Yes or No", or "Go or No Go"?
The steps of "pray" and "think twice" are to avoid impulsive behavior. These two steps stop us to make the decision immediately without assess the situation. The major difference between human and animals is we don't follow our feeling. We can resist to follow our own feeling. We withstand the feeling if we are hungry. We don't piss anywhere if we are in need. We can analyze the situation. Do the analysis as much as we can, recall the lesson we learnt though our similar experiences in the past, and then stop. Clear our mind. Figure out the best decision. Think about all possible outcomes and which are the most favorable.
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