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| A friend of mine talked about her problems that she always handle the things in wrong ways and made wrong decisions. If people know her very well, people can easily see her problems because it's too obvious. Many times I gave her advices, she didn't listen. You can guess the consequence - She ate the fruit of her own wrong doing. I asked her whether she regret for the aftermath or not. She said no. But, as a friend, I feel pity for her.
I majored in industrial engineering. I have learnt a lot of decision making skills. There are some systematic ways for us to make a right decision without regret. But sometimes we don't really need any systematic methods to make a decision. We don't need to draw a tree diagram listing down the possible outcomes and calculate their opportunities. Like my friend, sometimes we miss some simple steps before make a decision or do the things. All the things we need to do are - pray and think twice. So when it comes to make a decision about someone or something that you are not sure about whatever it's a financial, work, study or even romantic decisions (That's why there are lost of divorce or heart-broken people). We should gather all the necessary information, then stop before making a decision. Step out of the situation for a moment. Go somewhere quiet, like even if it's just the bathroom and I prefer go to church. Pray. We can pray for God's guidance and the wisdom. And then, ask yourself, "Yes or No", or "Go or No Go"?
The steps of "pray" and "think twice" are to avoid impulsive behavior. These two steps stop us to make the decision immediately without assess the situation. The major difference between human and animals is we don't follow our feeling. We can resist to follow our own feeling. We withstand the feeling if we are hungry. We don't piss anywhere if we are in need. We can analyze the situation. Do the analysis as much as we can, recall the lesson we learnt though our similar experiences in the past, and then stop. Clear our mind. Figure out the best decision. Think about all possible outcomes and which are the most favorable.
Most of what we're looking for... we already know. | | |
| Yesterday was my Big Sister’s wedding. As her good friend and I also witnessed what has happened few years ago, I was definitely happy for them. During the speech of the husband, the bride was so touched and tore. The moment was so touching.
Later that night, I thought about the setback in love I experienced this year. I was completely heartbroken (but I got over it now). I finally learnt love was supposed to be something women chased, not men. Girls are vulnerable and even stupid in love. They don’t care about how bad the one they love is. They feel the affection, then they just love the bad one. Guys, don’t expect when you treat your loved one very well, the lucky one will love you back. There is no such thing in the world. The girls may even treat you in wrong and unfair ways. Human's love is all about feeling but not about sacrifice. So, wise up in love.
With some false love stories of my friends, I have a new perceptive in love. I can say I don’t believe in love between man and woman. Many people think love is supposed to last forever. But love is not always like that. It comes anytime; it goes anytime. Occasionally true love stays for a life time, just like my good friend and our parents. However, most of the time love only stays for a very short period. So I say, accept love when it simply hits on you but don’t be surprised and sad when it leaves, either.
Just be glad you had the chance to feel the love, touch it and experience it. | | |
| Yesterday, Francis@Choir asked me why I have so many friends celebrating my birthday. I answered him I didn't do anything. My friends prepared all for me. The night I realized I'm so blessed that God has sent so many angels to cheer me up, give me comforts, and of course protect me (that is their advices to remind me better do this or not to do that). Two years ago, a little thing made me lost my confidence in people, in turn, I was so stupid to isolate myself from my friends. I was addicted to workout so intensively and use to pray alone in church. I only trust God, my family and my some of best friends. This year, something let me down again. I shared my bad feelings to some of my friends and had their comforts. They raised me up and wiped my tears. They are so nice to me. However, these two years, I didn't do anything for my friends, no one single thing. I found myself is the one can't be trusted but not others. They are always faithful to me. Jesus said, "No one has greater love than this - to lay down one's life for one's friends." (John 15:13). He said no any love beats the love of friendship. We can see, in Jesus' eyes, friends are very important in our lives. Jesus didn't ask us to love him first. He asked us to love one another first. The geek word for the love of friend and family is "Philia". Only "Agape", the divine and unconditional God's love, is greater than "Phila". So friends' and family's love is greater than other types of love on earth. I think I got no chance to sacrifice my life for my friends but I can say if my friends need me, I'd do anything I can to give them helps. Tonight, my friends, I wanna take this chance to apologize for the time I put you aside, for the time you need help but I didn't reach my hands, for you in bad mood I didn't give you comfort, for anyone of your birthdays I missed, and for anything I did wrong to you. To me, there are no such best friends, good friends, casual friends or beer friends in the world. Friends are friends. And friends are friends forever. | | |
| The world was surprised when the Nobel Peace Prize Committee announced the year 2009 winner. Barack Obama, the US president, is the winner this year. There is no doubt that Obama is a charming and outstanding leader. Not like the former US president, Obama's speech is brilliant, convicing and full of humor. The new US president is no longer a troublemaker. He did some great jobs in economy recovery. People outside US like the new US president, even the young people who never care about politics also like him. However, the world has a question: What did he do for peace-making? Obama said he was surprised. The reason why he's surprised because, I think, he realize that he hasn't done any peace-making accompishment. Why would the commmittee give him the prize? I later read some articles about the news that the prize can be a call to action. Some previous winners were awarded the prizes in order to courage them to do the solid peacemaking works. Hopfully, the prize will motivate Obama in turning the hopeless hope of world peace in action. I hope he will better utilize his power and influence to make the world more peacful. Last week, I beated a scrapper in a shopping mall. I have no idea why I would do that at the moment. Maybe I got furious by his "F" words. Maybe I think I could knock him out by ten seconds. Maybe I am basically a head buster. But one thing for sure is I really did a wrong thing. I felt excited and happy to drop him within ten seconds but I more feel regretful about it. The peace prize reminded me that not only the winner need to do something for peace. I also need to do something for peace in my community. Lastly, I want to to sum up this entry by a passage: "With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another through love, striving to preserve the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace." (Ephesians 4:2-3) Mother Teresa is the Nobel Peace Prize Winner in 1976. Besides Lord Jesus, she is another person I respect the most. Her works help the poorest of the poor in the world and also make the world more harmonious. May all of us be the peacemaker like Mother Teresa and all other the Nobel Peace Prize Winners by the guidance of Holy Spirit. | | |
| Again, I was lately transferred to a new division, called Product Ling Management. I've worked in my current company for two years and have been transferred from team to team for several times. This time, everything in this division is new to me, whatever the people, working environment and job natures. My team is a no-one-know division in my company, which was built for the business process re-engineering. I was assigned to coordinate the process re-engineering projects. It's a challenging work because I need to handle some kinds of high level tasks and global processes. I also need to deal with the top management to do a lot of planning and meet with them.
Today, I finished the first week working in PLM. I didn't have so much solid work to do. My managers only invited me to attend the meeting because they wanted me to feel the atmosphere and get touch with the people. Mostly, the meetings are out of my responsibilities. So, the only things I need to do during in the meeting is keeping silent but paying so much attention to every words the people spoke. This week is extremely boring. However, next week will be awful. All my four projects on hands will be kicked off. There are two section of 3 hours meetings for all those four projects next Wednesday. I am a guy studied quite a lot about project management but have never actually put my hands on it. So I have no experience in project management. And be frank, except the names of the project management tools, I am not very familiar with them (Sorry to Dr. Chuah). This Saturday and Sunday, I think I need to re-study project management in a profound level.
This new position is quite challenging and provides me a lot of opportunities to learn. And it completely fits what I studied in University (which is industrial engineering and engineering management). But I found what I learn is not that easy to apply to my current job. I started to feel the pressure from everywhere. One more thing I concern is I need to work very closely with the managers from different departments. I know I'm very humble when I'm talking to the them. But I don't think it's the way to work with the managers. After the first week, I started to think about the resolutions: Sometimes I need to be humble but sometimes I need to have the courage to stand for myself. I don't need to kiss their asses but I need to cozy up to them. I can say dealing with them can be regarded as an art.
By the time my parents have all retired and my brother is still looking for his "ideal" job, I am the only one who work for the family. Even though my new job give me a very good opportunity, my current pay is not enough to support them. I have a plan to leave this company if the review of my salary by the end of this year cannot satisfy me. I will have to hunt a better-pay job. Anyway, there are three months to go. I still need to unload my everything to let people know I am a capable person.
O God, grant me the ablility to better get in place, the wisdom to better manage all the stuff, and the communication skills to better deal with the people. | | |
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